8:78) chris abraham 21-JAN-98 10:55

i am not bitchy enough to be a man. i have so much rope here that hanging is certainly a possibility, wordwise that is. i have not cried since 1994. and that was uncontrolable catharsis. and my lover called her mum, a nurse, in a panic. her mum told me to stop. if a man starts truly crying, he'll never stop. "challenge your man," she told her child, "with crying. tell him you will not feel truly close to him unless he takes you in his arms and has a good cry. comment openly on the president as he cries -- mention how real men cry, and how crying is healthful and removes all the toxins that lead to premature heartdisease. you'll catch him, sooner than later. if he does, if he really lets loose beside you, clutching to you and holding you tight enough to bruise, he is weak. he is a weak man and he will never stop once he has started. wait for a stoic man, a man who can be more of a rock, more of a safe harbour within which your family is secure."